It’s finally the season of New Years’ fleeting motivation, long work days, and fad diets.
And all I’m seeing on my facebook newsfeed are posts about this year’s resolutions.
As I was facebook creeping, I realized something about relationship goals (light bulb moment) that REALLY frustrated me.
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So this year I ask that you do set your goals and push yourself further than ever before. But all the while, remain happy with who you are today.
And in the comments section below, write one thing that you makes you incredibly happy today, in this moment.
I’m in the quote self help industry, and have been raised with the constant philosophy of change, improvement and pushing myself to new heights to make myself better. It’s the new year, so I’m seeing all of these blogs and messages about New Years Resolutions.
Now, that’s all well and good right, I believe in Goal setting, I believe in setting intentions, setting a direction, because we all have things we could improve on. Lose weight, hit our sales numbers, get a promotion, and in my field, helping women finding a build sexy confidence to find great relationships.
But I’ve realized something very recently about self help and the pursuit of constant life improvement that has recently started to bother me.
And that is that a lot of people set goals this time of year based on the premise that who they are NOW is not good enough to be happy.
let me ask you question What is actually stopping you from being the happiest woman alive…right now. What is it really?
It’s one thing. There is ONLY one thing stopping you right now.
You expect that once you make 100,000 a year, you’ll finally be able to travel and buy the condo, and then be happy.
You expect that once you lose 10 pounds, then the man of your dreams will suddenly want you.
You expect that if you get a boyfriend, or married, then all of your other problems will suddenly vanish.
Bare with me, but What if the person you are now, watching this video at this very moment, is capable of the purest form of happiness in this instant?
I’m a dating coach, and of course finding a loving boyfriend, finally falling in love — is an immensely important part of your life, and it’s what I’ve dedicated my life to helping women do, but you need to be happy and content with your life NOW not later, in order to really attract a great guy.
Now I am the epitome of someone who always going for the next biggest thing — it’s arguably one of my biggest flaws. I’m always pushing harder and working on myself as much as possible.
And I don’t plan on stopping that, but alongside those ambitions, I’m also going to remain mindful that nothing that’s happened in the past or nothing that will happen in the future really matters, what matters most is being happy with my life today. I ask that you join me.
Just realizing that at this moment, you already are happy, interesting, passionate, successful,– and if you’re not, then you might want to take a second look at your expectations of what makes you happy.
This video is not to deter you from setting relationship goals — definitely not – this is really just a reminder that happiness comes from the journey of self improvement, not from any sort of arrival. Because there is no arrival in life. And SELF ACCEPTANCE IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS SELF IMPROVEMENT.
And most importantly, if you’re not happy while you’re dating and meeting people, no one’s gonna be happy dating you anyways.
So this year I urge you to learn and grow and achiever your greatest goals, but also to find some happiness in the little things, live in the present, and this will be the year you attract a happy great guy into your life.
Happy new year.